Bertie and Croc had had a long rest after running, well being carried on, a half marathon. Bertie’s legs ached from jumping up and down inside the pocket. Croc’s legs ached from clinging onto the material of the pocket for dear life praying he didn’t fall out.
The weather was beginning to warm up in the UK now. Croc hadn’t experienced the UK when it was warmer and he had found a safe and happy spot on the window sill where he could follow the sunshine all day. As the sun moved across the windowsill, so did Croc, shuffling when no one was watching.
Bertie was itching for another adventure and spent his time pacing backwards and forwards from the sunny windowsill to the camera case. This was how Croc got left behind!!!
You see on glancing into the camera case, and seeing Bertie, and being so use to Croc hiding. Nobody noticed that Croc was missing and so Bertie was whisked away on an adventure without his best friend. This was the first adventure he had been on by himself in a while and Bertie’s stomach began to churn and he felt quite upset! He hoped Croc wouldn’t be annoyed….
Bertie was whisked out into the light and heard mumbling noises, followed by a frantic fumble around in the bottom of the bag. Bertie knew he now wasn’t the only one who realised Croc was missing. “It’s OK, Croc will be at home” Bertie heard a voice say. “We will just have to take even more photographs of Bertie so he can show Croc where he has been!!!” Bertie suddenly felt a sense of purpose and responsibility.
He posed with his best smile, trying not to show how nervous he was, trying to be brave for the photographs for Croc, as he was placed on the cold, damp rocks in front of a loud and gushing waterfall. Bertie knew Croc liked water but he wasn’t sure what his best friend would make of water which was this enthusiastic…..what do you think Croc would think of the waterfall?
In today’s society it has never been easier to communicate with such a broad range of people from all over the world. Never before has the human race been exposed to the opportunities it has today. Social media sties, blogging, sharing pf photographs, videos and words are over whelming. People have a voice, and we want everyone to hear what we have to say!
There is a problem, however. Communication is only effective if the parties involved are interpreting the media used in the same way! Inuit cultures (Eskimos) have a large number of words for “snow”, whereas in Britain we have one. This is because their culture have adapted to live in a climate where knowing, describing and communicating exactly what kind of snow you are dealing with is extremely important! One person may interpret a having a tropical fish tank as being geeky, where as someone else may find it extremely relaxing. When we communicate we are usually coming from a place within our own understanding and internal perception. If the person we are communicating with does not have the same understanding, perception or interpretation of what we are communicating then we can find ourselves in a rather frustrating position!
What happens if the person you are trying to communicate with does not want to actually know what you have to say? Too many people are wrapped up with the self talk inside their heads that they are not really listening to what other people are saying.
So how do you improve your communication with someone? Follow the simple steps below and see what happens:
- Keep it simple and stick to your main points.
- Listen actively to what the other person is saying; try not to get wrapped up in your own internal dialogue and try to not think of a response. In doing this you ensure that you understand the other person’s perspective.
- Make eye contact, it demonstrates that you are interested in the other person’s reaction to what you are saying /you are listening to what they are saying.
- Summarise to demonstrate your understanding. Repeat what you understand the main points are of what the other person has said.
- Present your view, opinion, argument etc. based on any of the main points you have disagreed on or fill in the gaps in the other persons understanding.
- Ensure that the words you are using mean the same to the other person as you. For example, disappointed to one person could mean upset or let down, whereas to someone else they could feel devastated.
- Keep checking the other persons understanding of what you are expressing.
- Don’t use personal terms or identification phrases which the other person may not understand, such as my niece in the photograph. If I do not know your family, I would not know who your niece was.
- Be aware of your body language, for example having your arms folded across your chest could be seen as defensive.
- Try and communicate face to face if there is any tension. It is easy to blast any angry e-mail or text to someone but when you are in front of that person your reactions may be different.
Just for fun and to prove that actions speak louder than words……what is the little chap below trying to say to you?